
Choosing a date using the chinese calendar
No consulting of temple medium, and no reference to specifics of our birthdates and times.
To me, it was just choosing a date out of the chinese calendar, like picking out a date on a weekend or public holiday. To my parents, they were able to avoid really “disastrous” dates on which no weddings should take place.
Whatever your reasons, if you need to use the chinese calendar to find an auspicious date, here is a simple guide on how to read it without going into fengshui/chinese astrology stuff. (I wouldn’t know how to even if I wanted to. ^_^;
So what's on the chinese calendar?
Usually, the chinese calendar contains:

Chinese wise sayings
Wise sayings are usually printed along the two sides of chinese calendar. They can be quite enlightening. Here’s one that I like, ”欲人无闻,莫若勿言。欲人勿知,莫若勿写。”which means “If you do not want others to hear, don’t say. If you do not want others to know, don’t write”.
Basic terminology
Here are the chinese words related to wedding events on the chinese calendar:
Choosing the auspicious date
2 ways to go about it:

If found under 宜, it’s a good date for that event, if 忌, don’t select that date. The date is neutral for that event if nothing is mentioned.
Important note: Certain days are not favorable for all joyous events and are listed as “不宜诸吉事” under the 宜 section. For such an unfavorable day, 忌 section will also list 吉事 meaning to avoid all joyous events.
Check the auspicious timing
Some people also want an auspicious timing for events such as fetching the bride and entering the groom’s home.

| Chinese periods | Hours |
| 子(zi) | 11pm to 1 am |
| 丑(chou) | 1am to 3 am |
| 寅(yin) | 3am to 5 am |
| 卯(mao) | 5am to 7am |
| 辰(chen) | 7am to 9am |
| 巳(si) | 9am to 11am |
| 午(wu) | 11am to 1pm |
| 未(wei) | 1pm to 3pm |
| 申(shen) | 3pm to 5pm |
| 酉(you) | 5pm to 7pm |
| 戌(xu) | 7pm to 9pm |
| 亥(hai) | 9pm to 11pm |
Learn more about the history of the Chinese Calendar from WebExhibits.org.
What about chinese horoscope?
The chinese horoscope that “clashes” on that date is listed with the age under a section titled 每日相煞. Under 生年相冲 the other years of the same horoscope that also “clashes” is listed. It is interesting to note that not all the years of the same horoscope is listed as “clashes”. It is a mystery to me and I’ll leave it at that.
Not sure what is your chinese horoscope?
