HarmonyProduct DescriptionBooks for a Better Life Award Winner
Here is a landmark book that reveals the way boys think and that shows parents educators and coaches how to reach out and help boys overcome their most common yet difficult challenges -- by the bestselling author who changed our conception of adolescent girls.
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Do you constantly struggle to pull information from your son student or athlete only to encounter mumbling or evasive assurances such as Its nothing or Im good?? Do you sense that the boy you care about is being bullied but that hell do anything to avoid your help??? Have you repeatedly reminded him that schoolwork and chores come before video games only to spy him reaching for the controller as soon as you leave the room? Have you watched with frustration as your boy flounders with girls?
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Welcome to Boy World. Its a place where asking for help or showing emotional pain often feels impossible. Where sports and video games can mean everything but working hard in school frequently earns ridicule from the guys even as they ask to copy assignments. Where masterminds dominate and friends ruthlessly insult each other but can never object when someone steps over the line. Where hiding problems from adults is the ironclad rule because their involvement only makes situations worse.
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Boy world is governed by social hierarchies and a powerful set of unwritten rules that have huge imp"ications for your boy??s relationships?? his interactions with you?? and the man he??ll become. If you want what??s best for him?? you need to know what these rules are and how to work with them effectively.
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What you??ll find in Masterminds and Wingmen is critically important for every parent ? or anyone who cares about boys ? to know. Collaborating with a large team of middle- and high-school-age editors?? Rosalind Wiseman has created an unprecedented guide to the life your boy is actually experiencing ? his on-the-ground reality.? Not only does Wiseman challenge you to examine your assumptions?? she offers innovative coping strategies aimed at helping your boy develop a positive?? authentic?? and strong sense of self.
From the Hardcover edition.Amazon.com Review Q. Why turn your attention to boys? Havent they always been in an advantageous position? What has changed?
A. While in some ways it seems indisputable that boys have an advantage over girls it depends on how you define advantage. Yes some boys have social status and power that enables them to silence othersboys and girls alike. Some boys can use their advantage to hurt others and not be held accountable. But I dont think of it as advantage per se because its impossible to have meaningful connections and relationships with other people when you feel entitled to use those people. And in regards to many boys in middle and high school whove barely started puberty if you asked them who has more advantage them or the ninth-grade girl who looks like shes eighteen theyd laugh at you. To them it seems as if girls have all the power.
Q. I know you wrote this book with boy editors from every walk of lifewere you surprised by what the guys revealed to you?
A. Yes! I knew that boys had complex emotional lives?? but there was a lot I didn??t know. For example?? it??s funny?? but boys hate it when their parents pick them up from school or practice
